Boxycharm february 2022 spoilers

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HALL OF FAME
Summary of top 3 performances:

	1st	2nd	3rd
June 2021	Ancient-Recover695	Grymmwulf	jackES62
July 2021	Grymmwulf	Ancient-Recover695	JLyons18
August 2021	LunacyEcho	197gpmol	Ancient-Recover
September 2021	LunacyEcho	Ancient-Recover	solarsensei
October 2021	solarsensei	197gpmol	LunacyEcho
April 2022	JackES62	LunacyEcho	solarsensei

Top 10 Individual Personal Bests All-Time:

	User	Score	Month
1st	Grymmwulf	24945	July 2021
2nd	Ancient-Recover695	24718	June 2021
3rd	JackES62	24714	April 2022
3rd	LunacyEcho	24714	April 2022
5th	solarsensei	24674	October 2021
6th	197gpmol	24572	October 2021
7th	JLyons18	24552	July 2021
8th	Werdok	24438	September 2021
8th	KeelsDB	24438	April 2022
10th	Kibachiyo	24403	April 2022

Wanted to write up a post to anyone who might be going into a C&P Exam for PTSD and wanted to know the experience of it.
TLDR version; make sure to study the VA PTSD DBQ, realize where the examiner is trying to trip you up (I honestly believe they try several tactics as detailed below). Realize they are not your friends and it's in your best interest to be as honest but as direct as possible.
Background Info:
I worked as a CT in the Navy, never went to medical while I was in as I was told getting mental help would get my clearance removed. Definitely experienced issues that I won't discuss here due to the nature of the clearance.
I had gone in to my local VA hospital with major depression and talked to them about being suicidal in January of 2022. They were able to get me a VA approved social worker to work with and annotated in my record that I had a positive screening for PTSD. I then went in to my local VA advocate February 2022 and started my claim. I've had a year of psychotherapy through the VA since then and I believe the social worker put down that she believed I had PTSD with major and chronic depression.
I got my counselor (I had been paying for the better half of two years) to write a letter I could submit as evidence detailing my depression and PTSD from his perspective. I had submitted a PTSD claim in 2015 but the file was closed without a VA examination (they couldn't find any links in my medical record of trauma even though I spent time overseas in a warzone). I was pretty defeated so this time I wanted medical evidence to support my claim.
It seem to have worked as I was scheduled my C&P exam in May 2023 (sixteen months from submitting my claim for anyone wondering how long it took to get the exam). During this time of waiting for my exam I submitted signed letters from my wife, her sister in law (detailing my depression, suicidal thoughts and cutting) and signed letters from two shipmates I served with detailing what happen to us.
The Exam:
I arrived 5 minutes before my exam and was pretty silent in the waiting room. The front desk person was VERY friendly, almost overly friendly. Asking how I was, how the drive was, how my week was going, what I thought of the weather etc etc. I put on my serious face and gave direct answers "could be better, it was long, not good, it's cold". She sat back in her seat and then was quiet. I waited there for about 10 minutes staring at the floor until the Optum Serve psychologist came out.
She walked me back to a room where the chairs were arranged facing away from the door and the windows, towards her with my back turned to both. I could tell it had been purposely arranged to make it inconvenient to move with a table dividing the area and force me to sit with my back to the door and window, so I rearranged the chairs and sat with my back to a corner facing everything.
She was nice but I could tell she had read up on my file. She began by telling me she could not diagnose any issues and began asking me questions about my mom and dad, how they were, if they loved me and if I ever felt alone prior to the military. She then asked if I had ever been abused sexually prior to the military or ever been in trouble at school or law enforcement prior. To each question I answered "no" and that I had a great upbringing as a kid.
She then asked if "I was happy?" keeping it open ended, so I asked her if she meant if I was happy now or prior to the military. She then said "prior" so I told her I was happy before the military and miserable after just to make it very clear.
It was then she started to ask me questions straight from the PTSD DBQ that I had studied prior to going in (make sure to look over the DBQ to see where your exam is going). Almost verbatim one for one so make sure to memorize it so you can see where they are leading you. One question she tried getting me slip up on were "Did your suicidal thoughts come after you were in the military?" to which I replied "they started when I was overseas in the military in 2007 and have gotten worse since". She replied with "So they didn't start after service just to make it clear?" to which again, I replied with the same answer but added in the depression now has kept me from keeping employment since she was pressing it.
She then asked how I would commit suicide, if I had a plan. I replied with my plan as I have thought about it a great deal. She asked what had stopped me to which I gave her a reply that she wrote down. I told her I also cut now due to how my brain is working and she asked if that began after the military, I told her it started at my first command (the letter from my shipmate detailed this fact in her statement saying she saw cuts on my arms but was unable to help as she was so stressed out with depression).
Almost after EVERY experience I talked about with depression, suicide and self harm the psychologist kept checking to see if it happen AFTER service. It was almost deliberate how much she was trying to get me to say it started after I got out. (I recommend keeping an eye out for this when you go in for your exam as the wording was very weird).
Finally, I got into the sexual trauma I had gone through to which I started crying. I never reported it due to being threatened that my clearance would be revoked if I told anyone. It's a long story but I broke down to the psychologist about it. She too also started to cry along with me about all the experiences I had gone through and how hard it was at such a young age to experience it all. I could see the tear drops come down her eyes.
It was after her crying with me that I believe she changed from trying to see if I was faking everything to actually helping me, walking me through what she thought I was experiencing mentally. She was saying stuff like "if you haven't put this on your claim, you might want to look in to it" or "I would go get this checked up on". She was asking me questions that I had seen others here say to mention like paranoia, not being able to have friendships, being distant, being alone, having security cameras around my house. Not liking loud noises, not liking crowds, having panic attacks, etc. etc. Again, it was like she was trying to now help my claim with questions I had forgotten to tell her due to nerves. We covered the entire DBQ by the end of the exam.
As far as what she was writing out, I could tell she was annotating everything on the computer and the entire exam was about an hour and a half. Finally, she asked me how I was feeling letting me know that "after talking to a VA psychologist that most veterans feel much better and the weight usually has been lifted off them". I think this was a final trip up question to see my reaction of saying "Oh I feel much better! Thank you!". I didn't fall for it and replied "I just feel broken". I got up and walked out of the exam room.
Walking out, the same front desk lady who was overly happy got up and said "Have a great day and enjoy the weather! Thank you for your service!". Again, another trip up for me to reply back with something nice, instead I just ignored it and walked out while the psychologist watched me walk to my car.
Post Exam:
I'm checking my VA claim daily online but haven't seen anything change past "evidence gathering". I'm hoping I made a strong case but I'm not entirely sure if I'll get a rating as I never have had one other than an injury of 10%. The entire ordeal has completely screwed with me mentally and I'm STILL exhausted by all the questions.
Hopefully this helps another veteran out there to get the rating they deserve. We went through a great deal to be where we're at now and if by going through it I can help others in their walk, I'll gladly be there to help.

I just found out about some interesting investments. Web3 game studio Pomerium secures $20 Million in angel investment.
For those of you who are not familiar with the company, Pomerium was founded in February 2022 and is said to be a Web3 multi-game platform focused on mobile gaming. The platform’s token currency aspires to build a long-term mobile gaming ecosystem. The company’s games provide customers with a one-of-a-kind and immersive experience, as well as ownership and management over their in-game assets, such as NFTs and utility tokens. The Web3 company intends to extend its GameFi services in the future years.
As I mentioned this mobile gaming, tell me what to play, which blockchain game is available on mobile? I would love to see MagicCraft as a mobile game as well!
So, let's get back to funds, they will allow the firm to accelerate its growth, acquire top personnel, and deliver new and engaging games to its user base. Pomerium is dedicated to driving the Web3 gaming industry forward by creating high-quality, unique, and engaging casual games that engage and fascinate gamers.
I found out as well that Bitget has also just created a $100 million Web3 fund to encourage innovative Web3 initiatives in Asia. The exchange said that it plans to hire 300 more employees for operations, compliance, research and development, and support departments.
It's going to be more and more games, love this!

I'm looking for feedback on this spec script for It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia that I wrote toward the end of 2022/beginning of this year. I submitted it to a festival in February, but now it seems Season 16 may feature one of the story lines I used. (Charlie's twin sisters return—Glenn Howerton teased in a recent podcast episode that forgotten characters would be coming back, and fans are speculating it's at least one sister.)
If true, that would be a cool mind meld with the real writers, but it would also mean my script won't have a shelf life after the new season begins next week.
This was the first thing I wrote "for fun" in several years, and it helped me rediscover a regular writing habit. I'd appreciate any notes to carry into future projects.
Link.
Edit to heed the moderator bot's advice:

• More about this script: Dee decides to put on a drag show, but the power goes out, locking the performers inside the bar with Dennis and Dee. Meanwhile, Charlie and his twin sisters are trapped in an elevator, while Mac and Frank roam the streets.
• Looking specifically for feedback/advice on story structure.

FTX co-founder Sam Bankman-Fried is laying the groundwork for a defense that argues he relied upon the advice of a prominent Silicon Valley law firm in taking many of the actions for which he is now facing fraud charges.
Bankman-Fried’s defense lawyers on Tuesday asked the judge overseeing his criminal case to force prosecutors to hand over documents given to the government by former FTX law firm Fenwick & West. If the government doesn’t agree, Bankman-Fried wants permission to subpoena the Mountain View, California-based firm.
The legal advice Fenwick & West provided to FTX and Bankman-Fried between 2017 and 2022 is “material to preparing a defense,” his lawyers said in their Tuesday filing.
That advice included the use of encrypted messaging apps, the provision of multimillion-dollar loans to FTX executives and the cryptocurrency exchange’s compliance with US banking regulations, the defense said. Those are all key elements of the charges against Bankman-Fried, who’s accused of orchestrating and concealing a yearslong fraud in which he used billions of dollars in FTX customer funds for risky investments, personal expenses and political donations.
Bankman-Fried has pleaded not guilty to his 13-count indictment and is due to stand trial in October.
A so-called advice-of-counsel defense can be used to rebut suggestions a criminal defendant intended to break the law, New York University law Professor Stephen Gillers said.
“In other words, the defendant’s argument is ‘my lawyers told me it was legal, and I thought it was legal,’” said Gillers. That would cut against the government’s contention that the defendant knowingly acted illegally — a necessary element of many criminal charges, including those against Bankman-Fried.
Such a defense would place further scrutiny on the relationship between FTX and Fenwick & West. The firm started representing Alameda Research, the exchange’s hedge fund affiliate and, according to prosecutors, the conduit for much of Bankman-Fried’s fraud, in 2017 and became the main outside counsel to FTX after its 2019 founding.
Fenwick & West didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment.
Former employees interviewed by federal prosecutors during the investigation have also referred to Fenwick & West legal memos that they claim guided their decisions, according to two people with knowledge of the case. Law enforcement has also sent subpoenas to the law firm, and it has been accused by investors in a class action lawsuit of aiding Bankman-Fried’s fraud.
Dan Friedberg, FTX’s former chief regulatory officer, joined the exchange in 2020 after previously representing it as an outside lawyer with Fenwick & West. As the cryptocurrency exchange began to fall apart in early November, Friedberg approached federal prosecutors offering his assistance, according to a person familiar with exchange. FTX’s former general counsel Can Sun was also poached from the firm.
Some material Bankman-Fried’s lawyers are asking for relates to a charge that he lied to Silvergate Bank to open an account in 2020 to receive customer deposits for FTX’s international exchange. The bank said at the time that he couldn’t open such an account if FTX wasn’t licensed as a money services business in the US.
Fenwick & West provided legal advice to FTX about such registration. The exchange’s US platform was registered as a money services business in 2020, but the law firm advised Friedberg in February 2020 that FTX’s international division didn’t need to register in the US as it didn’t accept US customers, according to a legal memo filed in court.
To get around Silvergate’s conditions, prosecutors allege, Bankman-Fried incorporated a new company, North Dimension, and told the bank he wanted to open a trading account connected to Alameda. Alameda employees, allegedly at Bankman-Fried’s behest, filed an application to the bank with this false information. Charges related to a conspiracy to commit bank fraud were added to Bankman-Fried’s indictment earlier this year.
Bankman-Fried said in Tuesday’s filing that Fenwick & West provided “real-time advice” on the opening of the North Dimension account.

I’ve been in role since the end of the February right before the march bonus; I pretty much got a DS bonus. I remember when SLS was implemented, all the DSs got a sheet that explained all the rolls & how the departments were going to be grouped in our store but I misplaced it & I can’t find it anywhere in my apron. I wish I still had it because I’ve asked a handful of people about how the bonus works for CXMs. Since January 2022 I’ve asked 2 DMs, 4 store managers, 5 CXMs, 8 ASMs, & my RVP. Everyones explanation differs from the rest at least slightly, so I’m still at square one lol. So does anyone know if it’s up to 10% or 25% Is it based on sales or not based on sales? Also, how in the world do NRMs bonus; Our district only has two so I haven’t really had an interaction with one.

My primary care doctor “diagnosed” me with acid reflux based off symptoms alone back in February. For the past year, I have had flare ups consisting of chest pain, upper central abdominal pain, and upper middle back pain. It was coming and going, but for the past month+ it has been daily. And this past week I had a new symptom develop which I assume is globus sensation (throat feels tight like it’s closing up and feeling of a lump in throat). I went to the doctor today and he sent me for blood work and a h pylori breath test and I’m going in for a barium swallow test tomorrow to check for hiatal hernia. I’m absolutely miserable. My stomach is bloated and distended, pain in my upper abdomen and chest, sharp back pains, burping and tons of gas. I had my gallbladder removed April of 2022 and had a follow up ultrasound back in February when I was diagnosed with acid reflux to make sure there was no stuck stones or pancreatitis, ultrasound was clear. I just want relief. Im barely eating because I feel so bloated as is. My sleep is awful because I wake up throughout the night in pain. I changed my diet 6 weeks ago, i take pantoprazole daily, Gaviscon after meals and before bed, sleep with my bed elevated but still in so much discomfort. Has anyone had these symptoms and they *just be acid reflux or was it more? My anxiety is through the roof.

Two years ago, I (29m) decided to end a 6 year relationship with my ex girlfriend. It was the right decision for both of us as our goals and ambitions just truly didn’t align. Yes, it hurt a lot, and there was a lot of back and forth communication between us that dragged on the inevitable. 2 summers ago we finally met up and agreed to just end it and go our separate ways mutually. There were a lot of tears cried on both sides, but it was truly for the best for both of us.
Although this was the best for both of us, I took me awhile to fully get over what transpired. I decided dating someone in this capacity would not be fair to any potential future partner, so I basically exited the dating market until I felt I was emotionally, and mentally ready. When I was ready at the end of 2022, I went on a few dates, and most of them ended with either my date or I not feeling a real strong attraction and parting ways.
At the beginning of February, I was scrolling hinge late one night when this particular woman (25f) showed up on my feed that, for lack of better words, “checked all the boxes,” at least from initial compatibility standpoint. She was looking for a long term relationship, and on hinge you can make a caption of what you are looking for in that type of relationship, and her caption said, “if you don’t know what you want, please stay away from me, and don’t waste my time. No disrespect, just figure your shit out before you approach me.” She sounded like she had her shit together, and was looking for something real, and I took the bait.
We matched basically right away, and from her first message I knew that I had found someone I wanted in my life, romantically speaking. Our conversation flowed so fluidly, and it felt as though we were like long lost friends finally catching up. I had so much fun talking to her and it reminded me what it feels like to be excited to talk to someone, and not just asking them basic dating app questions about their life.
So, within 2-3 days I asked her out, and she excitedly agreed, but there was a catch: she had just got surgery and was staying at her parents while she rehabbed for a little over a month. She said she would love to go once she’s back in our hometown. We chatted for a month, and as soon as she got back, we scheduled a date. We got drinks, and talked for a few hours, and the conversation flowed just as good as it did through text. Additionally, she looked absolutely incredible, and her and I’s sense of humor, and views on life aligned so well.
Dates turned into hangouts, hangouts turned into sex, sex turned into planning for things in the future, and all this accumulated into me developing incredibly strong feelings for her, and her for I (or so I thought).
Then, something that I can’t even fully comprehend yet happened only 3 weeks into our relationship. Her ex, showed up to her house uninvited while she wasn’t home, and posted a 3 page sob/take me back note on her garage door for her to read when she got back. She called me right away when this happened, and was clearly in a state of shock, apologized, and told me not to worry about it at all as this has no affect on our relationship. I told her I believe her, and I am here for her in every capacity, and want to continue our journey as partners, regardless of what was contained within that letter. We could get over it as a couple.
Well, I continued on with our relationship as it was before the note for the next several weeks, and she very much so reciprocated the sentiment with words and physical affirmations.
She came over two Fridays ago, and was clearly distraught as we were just having our normal conversation. She eventually stopped our conversation, and laid it all out to me. Apparently, after reading the note, it conjured up some feelings that she did not know were still present, and she wanted to reach out to her ex to get “closure.” She said that she doesn’t know if she wants to get back with him, but it would not be fair to continue or relationship moving forward as she can’t truly love me until these feelings are resolved. I told her again, that this is something that I will stand by her with, if that’s what she wants. We hugged, kissed, had sex, and held eachother afterwards. She then came over again Saturday, and met all of my best friends. We all went out, and she pulled me back to my apartment for a quickie, and we just sat and cuddled with eachother after like we always do.
She texted me Sunday saying that she still has some concerns about what we talked about on Friday, and wants to meet on Monday to talk things over. Taken aback a little, I asked if we could talk about it that Sunday night, to which her response is “I’m not to pressed about it :)” So again, I thought this was nothing to really worry about. We met Monday evening, and things seemed great, we kissed, hugged, cuddled, and laid around talking about everything under the sun. It was getting late, and she hadn’t mentioned anything yet, so I figured it must not be too bad so I asked if she would still like to talk about it.
She then said something that absolutely broke my heart: “I just do not think we are on the same page about this.” She wanted to meet her ex in person to discuss their breakup and get closure for herself, too which I was not okay with at all. From the very little I know about him, I find extremely weird and somewhat creepy to show up to someone’s house uninvited to deliver a note to them…I was not on board with them meeting. I was so upset I kind of said a few words, and left. I called her when I got back home and we had a 2 hour long phone call. She told me how great of a man I am, and how much I made her feel wanted and loved.
I unfortunately have a really hard time following exes on social media as it brings up old wounds that I tend to forget about if I just outright block them. When I told her this, she really wasn’t on board with this.
I don’t like ultimatums in a relationship, but I laid it out to her: if she can get closure with this guy and doesn’t want to be with him, I would absolutely be willing to make this relationship work. However, if she wants to give another shot to her ex, I do not want to be apart of her life in any capacity. She told me last Monday that she would text me last weekend, or sometime this week.
I can’t take it. I haven’t heard from her, and every fiber in my being is telling me to reach out to her and fight for her. I know that’s the wrong thing to do as I shouldn’t be the one chasing her. I am absolutely devastated, and I hurt just as much, or more than the end of my 6 year relationship. It’s the fact that she treated me so well, she was very open about how I made her feel, and how strong of a connection we felt with each other for the short time we were together.
Maybe I’m heartbroken because I feels like I was led on and used as a rebound for her? Idk I just feel so crummy and want to hear from her, regardless of what she has to say.
If you made it this far, any and all advice will be immensely appreciated.

Hello everyone, sorry for my bad English. Now I’m in times when I don’t know what to do. Here is my story me 23M and my girlfriend 19F having a 2 year relationship. We meet back to school 4 years ago and we were good friends. 2 years ago I invited her for date and things come out in good ways. First year was very great we never had any problems. First problem came when my brother found himself a girlfriend, later I found out she had conflict with her brother. She hated my brothers girlfriend because she can’t greet to her (to me same) and atc. but what can I do if she is stupid? I said it to my brother talk to her but it didn’t help. She is just stupid I can’t help her. Then she said she is using my brother, yes I talked to my brother about that but he have to find you. Then came the second problem, my girlfriend (it was not her fault) had problem with her sister. Who was the main problem? By my gf mother, me and my gf, because I’m using her (I don’t know how the hell), her mother also declared she (my gf) is ruining her life (with no reason, everytime before she said that, she will not go to her promotion, also she will move somewhere else from house and divorce because everyone is destroying her-and it was just one stupid problem). Then I had birthday and also was invated my brothers girlfriend, from that also problem came because from that reason my girlfriend didn’t wanted to came to my birthday and then it is also my fault. Then at november 2022 my father said shit thing to her 2 times, I discused it with my father do never say something to her like that. I talked about that also with her. My father agreed she was to our house 3 times and troubles didn’t came back with my father. At new year also problem came, she got into conflict with her mother with some little shit thing also about her sister, who was again the bad one? She (who didn’t do anything wrong) and me (who wasnt been there) so again shit thing were said by her mom that I just use her and I’m destoying her( my gf). But question is how the hell? 1,5 went by and we didn’t had normal conflict, I was messeging with her every day, every free time I had I was with her, we went out I paid, when she was ill I cared and was also with her, when she get into conflict with her mother and cried wiped away her tears, I never cheated or talked to other girl. So how the thing come out? Her mother messeged me to come help with my gf because she is crying hard, I just wondered me, The bad one? Who is “destroying” her. I love her more that anything I came that night but it hurt a lot. In january my gf starter to blame me, in her opinion because I planned that we could build house near my parents because we didn’t have to buy space, in summer she agreed now it was problem, I said okay we can think about something different so we can be happy, it was also problem that I wanted after school work in our shop and she wanted to move somewhere else from here, she said why I don’t want any other option, I said okay we can discuss out something. In end of February her mother get also in conflict now with her husband, she felt at night with car. I thought if she hates me some much maybe if I help her now, she will hopefully change, so I went with my gf to find her and we found her, she was greatful. I thought now thing will get right. I started to help to her sister with things so she also will stop hate me without reason. One day I went with her mother and she asked me why she don’t want to go to us (my gf). I said because she ( my gf) hate my brothers gf and my father and only my mom not. One week later my gf started to act strange. I found out she is writing with other male friends. To one of them she wrote how much I’m destroying her and that my family hate her because she said true about my brothers girlfriend(she didn’t said anything), I found it out when I was with her, it destroyed me I couldn’t say anything to her. Only thing was in my head, why me? When I’m giving her everything. Then about one week later she also get into conflict with her mother, because her mother claimed my mother is talking shits about her family. And how? because her friend is not talking that much to her so my gf mother for sure my mother said something shit about my girlfriends family. But no evidence, no examples what she said just claims. My gf mother started care about my gf (before everything was my gf fault in her life, she hated her) and started to talk shit about how bitch my mother is and how much my family want to destroy her family. I didn’t knew anything at that time about that. In April I had difficult times I was had lot of at university. I wrote just with my girlfriend everyday sometimes I was her, yes I was not too happy like before because I was extremely exhausted and tired from university. Then from that she got angry and said that I’m scum because of my family and I didn’t trust her because I first time I said I don’t believe my mother could say anything bad about her family because she always loved her. She said she need time I gave her I also was at her graduation and she invited me out, we also went out, messaged daily. One week ago she started me from no reason ignore. Next day I wrote if she want to get out she said we will discuss, at day nothing and next day also I said if she don’t want just say I’d don’t ignore me. Then she wrote I blame her for everything and she will ignore me. And here I’m. I’m destroyed mentally, I don’t know what to do I would like just to die. I love her so much I also had everything planned to move where she will be next year. What to do please help

Hi all, I really just want to kind of vent or I guess put this here
Kind of long too so good luck.
I'm sure my situation is different then most of you but here it goes.
I'm currently 19 and I just finished HS in 2022, i started working in retail/fast-food/warehouses since i was 16. Starting in February i landed a great Professional-type job and this job helped me figure out what i wanted to do, and from there it was my intro to accounting,
However I was contracted through an agency and my employment lasted about 4 months. Through my agency I took some courses and received an Accounts Receivable/Payable certification from a University in a partner program with my previous company
With that being said, in those 4 months, i was a top performer, doubling the quota and always having perfect attendance, working overtime, coming in early, staying later, literally whatever they needed. But that's because i genuinely enjoyed working there and i wanted a career.
My management team eventually notified me that they put in a letter of recommendation for me to upper management, and they asked me to send them my resume, i said "How" and they said i need to apply on their website.... go to check later and there is no listings. They said I just need to wait, and so i waited, but then my contract ended. The letter of recommendation applies for any position within the company apparently. However so far it's done nothing for me.
We were rated on an average per hour. I doubled the average of other associates there as well.
Even with my accounting certification and similar job experience, i am still getting turned down from numerous jobs in the accounting field. I am honestly scared to have to go back to retail/fastfood/warehouses. This has lead me to sign up for classes in fall for a 1 year Bookkeeping certification and hopefully that will help me but i don't know.
My management team also left me with no reference either.
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I'm not in any financial risk because i live with my parents, but i strive to be independent and make something out of myself, but not only that to make my parents proud, and it is so, so disappointing to see that im having a hard time finding employment now, Its only been about 3 weeks going on 4, but i really thought i would find a job within a week,
I've had 3 interviews so far and none of them have lead to anything/ i'm still waiting on responses but i'm pretty sure it wont be anything.
I feel like my dad is so disappointed in me, even though i know he's not because he said hes not since I've talked to him, but i can't help but feel like he is slowly getting more irritated that I'm not working
Not only that but i can't stand just being at home with my thoughts, i started going to the gym just to get out of the house, but i can't even have fun without feeling like my dad is judging me.
And idk, i asked my manager at my previous warehouse job for my position back this morning and he said that he'll look, but not much else for a response yet.
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I don't know what else to say really, thanks for reading.

Hello everyone, sorry for my bad English. Now I’m in times when I don’t know what to do. Here is my story me 23M and my girlfriend 19F having a 2 year relationship. We meet back to school 4 years ago and we were good friends. 2 years ago I invited her for date and things come out in good ways. First year was very great we never had any problems. First problem came when my brother found himself a girlfriend, later I found out she had conflict with her brother. She hated my brothers girlfriend because she can’t greet to her (to me same) and atc. but what can I do if she is stupid? I said it to my brother talk to her but it didn’t help. She is just stupid I can’t help her. Then she said she is using my brother, yes I talked to my brother about that but he have to find you. Then came the second problem, my girlfriend (it was not her fault) had problem with her sister. Who was the main problem? By my gf mother, me and my gf, because I’m using her (I don’t know how the hell), her mother also declared she (my gf) is ruining her life (with no reason, everytime before she said that, she will not go to her promotion, also she will move somewhere else from house and divorce because everyone is destroying her-and it was just one stupid problem). Then I had birthday and also was invated my brothers girlfriend, from that also problem came because from that reason my girlfriend didn’t wanted to came to my birthday and then it is also my fault. Then at november 2022 my father said shit thing to her 2 times, I discused it with my father do never say something to her like that. I talked about that also with her. My father agreed she was to our house 3 times and troubles didn’t came back with my father. At new year also problem came, she got into conflict with her mother with some little shit thing also about her sister, who was again the bad one? She (who didn’t do anything wrong) and me (who wasnt been there) so again shit thing were said by her mom that I just use her and I’m destoying her( my gf). But question is how the hell? 1,5 went by and we didn’t had normal conflict, I was messeging with her every day, every free time I had I was with her, we went out I paid, when she was ill I cared and was also with her, when she get into conflict with her mother and cried wiped away her tears, I never cheated or talked to other girl. So how the thing come out? Her mother messeged me to come help with my gf because she is crying hard, I just wondered me, The bad one? Who is “destroying” her. I love her more that anything I came that night but it hurt a lot. In january my gf starter to blame me, in her opinion because I planned that we could build house near my parents because we didn’t have to buy space, in summer she agreed now it was problem, I said okay we can think about something different so we can be happy, it was also problem that I wanted after school work in our shop and she wanted to move somewhere else from here, she said why I don’t want any other option, I said okay we can discuss out something. In end of February her mother get also in conflict now with her husband, she felt at night with car. I thought if she hates me some much maybe if I help her now, she will hopefully change, so I went with my gf to find her and we found her, she was greatful. I thought now thing will get right. I started to help to her sister with things so she also will stop hate me without reason. One day I went with her mother and she asked me why she don’t want to go to us (my gf). I said because she ( my gf) hate my brothers gf and my father and only my mom not. One week later my gf started to act strange. I found out she is writing with other male friends. To one of them she wrote how much I’m destroying her and that my family hate her because she said true about my brothers girlfriend(she didn’t said anything), I found it out when I was with her, it destroyed me I couldn’t say anything to her. Only thing was in my head, why me? When I’m giving her everything. Then about one week later she also get into conflict with her mother, because her mother claimed my mother is talking shits about her family. And how? because her friend is not talking that much to her so my gf mother for sure my mother said something shit about my girlfriends family. But no evidence, no examples what she said just claims. My gf mother started care about my gf (before everything was my gf fault in her life, she hated her) and started to talk shit about how bitch my mother is and how much my family want to destroy her family. I didn’t knew anything at that time about that. In April I had difficult times I was had lot of at university. I wrote just with my girlfriend everyday sometimes I was her, yes I was not too happy like before because I was extremely exhausted and tired from university. Then from that she got angry and said that I’m scum because of my family and I didn’t trust her because I first time I said I don’t believe my mother could say anything bad about her family because she always loved her. She said she need time I gave her I also was at her graduation and she invited me out, we also went out, messaged daily. One week ago she started me from no reason ignore. Next day I wrote if she want to get out she said we will discuss, at day nothing and next day also I said if she don’t want just say I’d don’t ignore me. Then she wrote I blame her for everything and she will ignore me. And here I’m. I’m destroyed mentally, I don’t know what to do I would like just to die. I love her so much I also had everything planned to move where she will be next year. What to do please help

I got my belly button pierced in February of 2022 so it’s a little over a year old by now. So far, i’ve had no problems with the healing. I cleaned it twice a day for the first year but I will admit to getting lazy and only washing it in the shower these past couple months. Even with the warm water cleaning only, it looked to be doing really well. However, seemingly out of nowhere, this weird piece of flesh has appeared poking out of the bottom hole of my piercing. I realized this about 5 days ago. I’ve seen a couple of posts within this subreddit with similar looking photos, and so far the general consensus has been to clean it twice a day with saline solution. I’ve been doing that for almost a week and it hasn’t improved/looks like it’s gotten worse. My biggest concern is it the bump sticks to the ball of my piercing and forms a yellow crust around it. It will come off with a warm shower or a soak with the saline solution, but I have to move and manipulate the piercing the remove the crust and unstick it from the metal ball. I know it is bad to move the piercing and irritate it, so my main question is, do I just leave it stuck to the bottom ball and not move the piercing to clean the crust?? Or should I continue to move the bar around in order to clean around the bump and unstick it from the ball. I’ve also seen a couple comments that mentioned they have only used a warm shower to wash it and otherwise have not touched it at all to let it heal.
I’m just generally a little freaked out by it as I still don’t understand completely what this bump is. I would like to keep my piercing in, as I love how it looks but am a little lost on what to do in order to heal this.
Also I feel like it’s important to mention I still have the original jewelry that it was pierced with in. I’ve changed it a couple times but always went back to the original as I feel like anything else irritates the piercing.
Any help is very greatly appreciated!! Thanks so much.

Hello everyone, sorry for my bad English. Now I’m in times when I don’t know what to do. Here is my story me 23M and my girlfriend 19F having a 2 year relationship. We meet back to school 4 years ago and we were good friends. 2 years ago I invited her for date and things come out in good ways. First year was very great we never had any problems. First problem came when my brother found himself a girlfriend, later I found out she had conflict with her brother. She hated my brothers girlfriend because she can’t greet to her (to me same) and atc. but what can I do if she is stupid? I said it to my brother talk to her but it didn’t help. She is just stupid I can’t help her. Then she said she is using my brother, yes I talked to my brother about that but he have to find you. Then came the second problem, my girlfriend (it was not her fault) had problem with her sister. Who was the main problem? By my gf mother, me and my gf, because I’m using her (I don’t know how the hell), her mother also declared she (my gf) is ruining her life (with no reason, everytime before she said that, she will not go to her promotion, also she will move somewhere else from house and divorce because everyone is destroying her-and it was just one stupid problem). Then I had birthday and also was invated my brothers girlfriend, from that also problem came because from that reason my girlfriend didn’t wanted to came to my birthday and then it is also my fault. Then at november 2022 my father said shit thing to her 2 times, I discused it with my father do never say something to her like that. I talked about that also with her. My father agreed she was to our house 3 times and troubles didn’t came back with my father. At new year also problem came, she got into conflict with her mother with some little shit thing also about her sister, who was again the bad one? She (who didn’t do anything wrong) and me (who wasnt been there) so again shit thing were said by her mom that I just use her and I’m destoying her( my gf). But question is how the hell? 1,5 went by and we didn’t had normal conflict, I was messeging with her every day, every free time I had I was with her, we went out I paid, when she was ill I cared and was also with her, when she get into conflict with her mother and cried wiped away her tears, I never cheated or talked to other girl. So how the thing come out? Her mother messeged me to come help with my gf because she is crying hard, I just wondered me, The bad one? Who is “destroying” her. I love her more that anything I came that night but it hurt a lot. In january my gf starter to blame me, in her opinion because I planned that we could build house near my parents because we didn’t have to buy space, in summer she agreed now it was problem, I said okay we can think about something different so we can be happy, it was also problem that I wanted after school work in our shop and she wanted to move somewhere else from here, she said why I don’t want any other option, I said okay we can discuss out something. In end of February her mother get also in conflict now with her husband, she felt at night with car. I thought if she hates me some much maybe if I help her now, she will hopefully change, so I went with my gf to find her and we found her, she was greatful. I thought now thing will get right. I started to help to her sister with things so she also will stop hate me without reason. One day I went with her mother and she asked me why she don’t want to go to us (my gf). I said because she ( my gf) hate my brothers gf and my father and only my mom not. One week later my gf started to act strange. I found out she is writing with other male friends. To one of them she wrote how much I’m destroying her and that my family hate her because she said true about my brothers girlfriend(she didn’t said anything), I found it out when I was with her, it destroyed me I couldn’t say anything to her. Only thing was in my head, why me? When I’m giving her everything. Then about one week later she also get into conflict with her mother, because her mother claimed my mother is talking shits about her family. And how? because her friend is not talking that much to her so my gf mother for sure my mother said something shit about my girlfriends family. But no evidence, no examples what she said just claims. My gf mother started care about my gf (before everything was my gf fault in her life, she hated her) and started to talk shit about how bitch my mother is and how much my family want to destroy her family. I didn’t knew anything at that time about that. In April I had difficult times I was had lot of at university. I wrote just with my girlfriend everyday sometimes I was her, yes I was not too happy like before because I was extremely exhausted and tired from university. Then from that she got angry and said that I’m scum because of my family and I didn’t trust her because I first time I said I don’t believe my mother could say anything bad about her family because she always loved her. She said she need time I gave her I also was at her graduation and she invited me out, we also went out, messaged daily. One week ago she started me from no reason ignore. Next day I wrote if she want to get out she said we will discuss, at day nothing and next day also I said if she don’t want just say I’d don’t ignore me. Then she wrote I blame her for everything and she will ignore me. And here I’m. I’m destroyed mentally, I don’t know what to do I would like just to die. I love her so much I also had everything planned to move where she will be next year. What to do please help

I won a startup internship at a competition organized by the Sutardja Center for Entrepreneurship and Technology (SCET) at UC Berkeley in October 2022, and the interview/acceptance process lasted from December 2022 to February 2023. Long story short, I got accepted and the internship was supposed to start 2 weeks ago, but I haven’t heard back from the company since April even though I’ve already followed up 2 times. I tried contacting the competition organizer too, but even she hasn’t gotten back to me yet.
It was kinda sus from the beginning since the CEO was very unresponsive whenever I talked to him, but I heard from several people that that was normal for internships and that they would get back to me eventually.
What’s most frustrating is that 1. I put a lot of effort into the competition, and it’s just right that they give the prizes that they said they would since it was organized by SCET. I expected more professionalism from them 2. I’m an international student and I worked hard to get work authorization in the US for this internship. I also have to pay for summer units if I want to have an internship (which is very stupid), and I have to be in the US if I want to get paid for the internship legally. This means that whether I stay home or go back to the US during the summer could depend on whether or not my internship pushes through.
If anyone has some tips/advice, that would be great!! I just feel kind of cheated because I spent a lot of time and energy trying to get the internship and didn’t apply to anything else bc i thought i was gonna do this

I am NOT OP. Original post by u/WhiskeyGinger99 in TrueOffMyChest and relationship_advice
trigger warnings: infidelity, emotional abuse, potential animal abuse
mood spoilers: hopeful
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Note: OOP posted twice the first day, once in relationship_advice and once in TrueOffMyChest. The update was posted in TrueOffMyChest
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Post #1, in relationship_advice:
My(24f) boyfriend (24m) of 4 years has been cheating for 6 months. - May 14, 2023
So I'm on mobile and this is all very fresh so I apologize for any spelling errors or formatting issues.
Basically what the title says. I woke up yesterday to a text from the other woman (she found my facebook) telling me everything. She didn't know I even existed, but as soon as she learned he had a girlfriend she came right to me. I was just fucking sick, I kept telling myself this couldn't be real. That my baby wouldn't do this to me, that he loves me. But it was all true. She showed me the evidence and when I confronted him he didn't even try to deny it. Just made some lame ass excuses like "I was depressed" and "We had common interests".
This piece of shit laid in bed next to me every night, reassuring me that I was loved and he wouldn't ever hurt me. I've been so insecure for weeks now that something was gonna happen, that things in my life never stay good this long. Well, I was sure as shit right. He was doing us both in the same day just to try to keep up his lies. Now both the other woman and I have to get STD tests cause I don't believe him when he says we were the only ones.
I don't know how to move on from this. I kicked him out and I won't be taking him back, but how do I ever learn to trust again? He was my entire world, every aspect of my life is tainted by his memory. If someone who had dedicated himself to me for so long would do this, then how can I trust someone I just met?
I don't even have many guy friends cause he was too insecure, I had to be ultra modest and couldn't really hang out with guys. I don't even like the way I look anymore because all I see is how the other woman is prettier, skinnier, has a flat belly. Idk I'm just rambling at this point.
TL;DR My now ex boyfriend of 4 years was cheating on me for 6 months before he got caught. How can I even start to heal from this?
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Post #2, same day, in TrueOffMyChest:
Just found out my boyfriend of 4 years has been cheating on me for 6 months - May 14, 2023
I am pissed to say the least. Also on mobile, sorry for any spelling errors or formatting issues.
But yeah 4 years, an entire life built together, just gone like that because he had to get his dick wet. He didn't even have a good excuse just "I'm depressed" and "We had common interests". Its honestly pathetic, I can't believe I loved this man. He had everyone fooled about what kind of vile trash he actually is. Now I have to get all his shit out of my house, find a new job since he convinced me to quit mine, and start over. I'm just so numb, it doesn't feel real yet. Honestly all cheaters deserve every kind of hell that comes their way. Grow a pair and just be honest. Don't traumatize someone the way he did me. Because now I have to figure out how to trust someone all over again.
I guess jokes on him though, both the side piece and I agree that he sucks in bed lol.
Edit: The other woman is the one who told me btw. She is actually very sweet and I believe her when she says she didn't know about me. Tbh I think she hates him more than I do.
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Update post in TrueOffMyChest:
Update: I just found out my boyfriend of 4 years has been cheating for 6 months - May 23, 2023
First of all I just want to say thank you for all the love and support I received in the comments. All the amazing comments really helped me with knowing I made the right choice. Its been a little over a week now since I kicked him out now and I have some new updates.
My ex and his mother came to pick up his stuff the day after while I was with my own mom. I still feel awful that his mom had to spend mother's day moving all his crap out of my house. Since then all communication has been through her. She's come over a few times to grab things he left, and we've had a good time just talking. We were always close and she is 100% on my side in this. Honestly I think she is angrier at her son than I am.
As for me, well, I'm doing really really good. I just got a new job today, and I start on Thursday. Fingers crossed I'll be able to be completely independent of him in the next month. I've been slowly cleaning the house after he left it a disaster. His old office was the absolute worst, he just left piles of trash in the corner for me to deal with. I feel like I owe my trash guys some cookies or something for the amount of crap they hauled away.
But the biggest update of all is that I've started seeing someone new. My new boyfriend is so amazing, I can't believe he's real sometimes. We have been friends for almost a year now and he's been my biggest supporter through my breakup. There was some mutual attraction, but we kept our distance due to me being in a relationship. I didn't even intend to start dating again so soon, but I just fell head over heels for him. We're taking things slow right now, I still need to heal and he's perfectly fine with that. Although to be honest, it feels like the best revenge to be seeing a new guy who treats me like an absolute princess while having my ex still pay my bills.
I realize now just how abusive my ex was. I always told myself that because he never hit me and supported me through my mental health struggles that he couldn't be abusive. But the more distance I get, the more I wipe every trace of him from my home, the more I realize how much I lived in fear of him. I lied so much to the people I loved just so no one knew who he really was. If he was in a bad mood he would just pick at me and try to hurt me. I was his bangmaid, and nothing else. He spent all his time away from me, locked in his office. And I'm not the only one he treated badly. The change in my dog is absolutely insane, its like he's a new animal. I worry now what was really going on when I wasn't around. I never knew my dog was so playful, I always assumed he was just lazy. Turns out he loves to play and bark and just be a dog without a grown man screaming at him.
So yeah, life is going really well. I go to get the STD test done in an hour and a half, so I'll make a small update on this post when I get the results.
Edit: So I'm seeing a lot of people accusing me of having an emotional affair in the comments, which I totally understand given the information I provided. Firstly, he lives 11 hours away and we have never even met in person. When I say we had a thing for eachother, I don't mean we had feelings for eachother or even a crush. We both thought the other was good looking but drew a hard line when it came to flirting or anything like that. If we hung out in a voice channel it was only in a group, and our dms were exclusively asking if the other was joining the group for games. Something I still do to my other friends. I was admittedly checked out of my relationship for a while, but that was after the cheating started and he became distant. I worked a lot and really didn't do much else aside from play games online with friends like once a week. I totally understand if people still feel like I had an emotional affair, I just wanted to add some more context. Figured an edit would be easier than replying to individual comments.
Edit: Okay I'm sick of explaining this over and over. Whether you think I had an emotional affair or not is whatever. But I was not checked out of my relationship. I was actively trying to fix things with my now ex up until the moment I learned he fucked another woman. Do not try to sit here and tell me that my choice to start dating my friend is equal to the constant lies and gaslighting my ex put me through. This man sat there and held me while I cried about how scared I was to lose him. He told me over and over that he loved me, that I was just paranoid, that he would never cheat on me. He cared more about getting laid (and mind you we had a very active sex life) than he did about being faithful to someone he made a commitment to. How can you even think that me finding my friend's voice attractive, a friend mind you that I was never even alone with, is just as bad or the reason he cheated? True emotional affairs are awful, they're just as painful as cheating. I made sure every step of the way that I never crossed that line. I was respectful, I was loyal, and I never said anything that could even be registered as flirting until AFTER MY EX AND I BROKE UP. My ex was a horrible abusive piece of shit. There are holes in the walls of my home because of him. I get scared any time my dog bothers someone to play with him because I'm worried my pup is going to get yelled at. I spent 4 years on eggshells because of him. Don't fucking pity him or tell me that his cheating and abuse is my fault. I met my now boyfriend is August of 2022. I had been with my ex since December of 2018. So please, keep telling me that his behavior was because of a so called "emotional affair".
Edit: Clarified some statements that seemed to be confusing people.
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