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Hey there. I'm still really, incredibly hurt right now because of a breakup that I recently went through with a partner with BPD. I am trying my best to not be hurtful, as I understand how difficult it is to have BPD, but I need support and to be reassured that it was their mental illness and not me.
I'll just try to make a long story short. My partner is ftm trans / nonbinary. They've been through a lot of trauma, and are currently a therapist for LGBT youth. I am a CIS male. They had an abusive ex husband for 10 years, and towards the end of the marriage he was r*ping them.
They divorced 2 years ago and I've been dating them (through their own initiative) since September of last year. They wanted freedom, so we dated as poly. I respected every one of their boundaries, from sexual repulsion, helping them during panic attacks during sex, etc. I wasn't perfect, but I certainly was not abusive.
A few weeks ago they started texting me about how they were not present for our relationship. I had just lost my grandmother, my job, and a good friend. I was isolated in this place I currently am, and my partner was the only tether here at the moment. I think they started withdrawing because of...honestly, I'm not sure. They just said that they had great love and care for me, canceled a camping trip we were supposed to do together, and supposedly went on it by themselves with their dog.
They also included the fact that they were now "feeling suicidal" and "still in love with their ex husband".
This was in the span of a day, where they had started it with "I love you". All the rest came 12 hours later when I asked if we were okay in our relationship, because I could feel them slipping.
So I gave them space. I was hurt, but I did not lash out. I offered unconditional love, and told them I would be here when they were ready.
5 days pass. Radio silence. I text them asking if they're okay, and I get ghosted for another day until I receive a very clinical sounding text using my government first name (which they had NEVER called me previously). Not a dead name, just something I prefer people don't use. So I'm not saying they were being abusive by deadnaming me.
I ask them to speak to me in person because I am worried, and frankly, to please return my spare apartment key. I see now in hindsight that asking for the key so soon without actual confirmation of a breakup probably triggered their abandonment issues, and I regret that. It was really something I didn't mean. They ghosted me for 3 days after that.
So I text again and ask them to please stop ignoring me. My feelings are crushed and I am genuinely worried. They apologize and claim they can drop the key off that day, and I say I would like to talk with them when they do. They respond saying they'd prefer a call or to text.
Okay. That hurts, we've been dating for over half a year and a phone call break up seems really impersonal, but alright. I work with them and say that I don't really want that, but I respect their boundaries and would like to call asap. They respond saying they're busy, and can't at that moment. So I ask for a specific time.
They ghost me again. And they never update me or drop the key off.
This time, I ask them what is going on. They didn't update me about the key, they didn't bring it, and now I'm actually becoming frightened for my OWN safety because they've already stated they're unstable at the moment and aren't giving me my apartment key back.
Their responses become colder. Talking about how it isn't an emergency, they didn't have the time, I'll get the key back when THEY are able to, etc. But the catch is that they live a 5 min drive from me. It's not like they couldn't have taken the time to do so!
So I call it out. I say that it isn't an emergency to THEM, but to me, I've been worried sick and ghosted constantly. I ask what I did wrong, to be met with this, verbatim:
"It's not my job to coach you through our breakup. And it's not something I want to do for free."
At this point, I became emotional. I did not berate them or belittle them, simply said that the way they're treating me is REALLY fucking unfair. Stonewalling me is not acceptable. Me asking for clarity and communication is NOT coaching me through our breakup.
At this point, I say to please just leave the key on their stoop because I can't trust them to bring it to me right now. I'll pick it up and leave. (Also a mistake on my end I'm sure, but in that moment I really COULDN'T trust them to keep their word.)
They simply said "fine" with a shrug emoji. And that was that. I picked up my key and other stuff they left me on the stoop, and I went. I wanted so badly to knock on their door but...I didn't. I respected their terms and space, no matter how much it hurt.
This is probably more just venting than anything, but I hope I can receive some clarity from this group, or some support.

I work hard and am conscientious. I am retiring soon. The office supervisor has apparently been trash talking about me, behind my back. I don't know exactly what was said, because the person who told me, just last week, wouldn't repeat what was said, but was genuinely distressed about the toxic talk. I absolutely believe that this is real.
I am retiring this week. I want to say something, on my last day. The best I can come up with is to wait for this office supervisor to say something on my final way out, something like: "Hey, have a great retirement! It's been great working with you!" And my response could be a blank face, then say "Really? How do you say that with a straight face? After all of those derogatory and demeaning things you've been saying about me?" (drop the mic and walk away, head held high)
I can't be specific because I don't know what was said, only that it happens. I don't want to out the kind person who clued me in (really, just confirming what I suspected). I want as many people as possible to hear me put this jackass in their place.
I'm asking for suggestions on how to cut this person down on my way out.

I'm 27 years old and my goal is to buy a home when I'm 29. I'm moving back in with my parents to get rid of rent/utilities. I'm going to first pay off a personal loan I have and then start saving for a house.
The personal loan is about $10.5K and I'm going to pay $3,400/month and pay it off in just over 3 months. Afterwards I'm going to put that $3,400/month into savings towards a house for two years. Not including interest from a HYSA, I should have $90K in two years for a down payment, closing costs, moving, furnishing, and padding my emergency fund.
The thing I'm not sure what to do with though is my student loans. I only owe about $8K and the monthly payment is $155. The one loan is $4,300 @ 3.8% and the other is $3,700 @ 4.3%. These aren't exactly breaking me, the interest is pretty low, and if I paid them off after my personal loan I'd lose about $8K + interest at the end of the two years. This would be my only other debt.
But I'm not sure how a mortgage lender would consider any other kinds of debt when underwriting. I'm thinking I'll owe about $5K at the end of the two years, so it won't be a lot but still. Should I just bite the bullet up front and take the hit on my savings to improve a mortgage, or will it not even matter if I continue paying the minimum payment?

Can anyone confirm once you hit battle pass 50 if you don’t claim the monster token does those accumulate? For example, if you leveled up twice you should have 2 tokens waiting for you. When I go to claim tokens I only see that there is one to claim. Would appreciate any update on how that feature is supposed to work.

Hey guys.
So I’m a trucker. I’m all over the US all the time due to my job. Is it worth it to pick up this game to make the job more bearable?
Any advice for someone coming in fresh?
Honestly I don’t know what to expect coming into the game since it’d be my first time trying something like this.
Is it worth starting even after so many years of it being out?

Throughout our 1.5 year relationship, I've frequently had to talk with him the we don't spend a lot of time together and I'm not really a priority for him. We started dating when we were both 34 and are now 36. I felt that people our age and that long in a relationship we should see each other more than once a week. He would even say he wouldn't have time to see me that week because of work then would proceed to go out with other people. Whenever I brought it up he would get all defensive, blow up, and say this relationship just isn't working. Most time it was my fault, I didn't invite home to my house or he did all the planning and I didn't reciprocate. I tried to get him to see me so many time. Last Saturday we were supposed to see each other and his friends "bday party" came up and asked me if I wanted to go. I had a bad migraine but knew that's the only time I would see him that week. So we get there and I feel miserable. He proceeds to go elsewhere and completely ignore me. 45 minutes to an hour in I said I wanted to go because he was ignoring me and I felt so alone. He instantly got up and went through the house to take me to my car. Would not speak to me. I started crying and told him I don't know why I'm not important. I said I didn't know if I could keep doing this. He told me he agreed and broke up with me. We got back to his house and he made me get my things and escorted me out. I was so upset because I cared about him. I drove back later that night to talk and he wouldn't even let me in and told me he never wanted to see me again....few days later I texted, he talked normally, he wished me a happy birthday and I asked if he was coming to dinner. He can'the has to move on because of what i said and did to him.

This is a long one and I’m sorry if it doesn’t make much sense, but here goes.
When I was a toddler, I was in an accident that resulted in an insurance payout. It was a large sum of money, enough to pay for 4 years of college and that was what the money was supposed to be used for. I was told it couldn’t be be touched until I was 18.
We weren’t poor growing up but we definitely struggled. My dad was in and out of jobs a lot and my mom was stay at home. They filed bankruptcy when I was a teen. At that point, I told my mom to use my money to support the family if she needed to. She told me she couldn’t, that legally she was not allowed to and that it was for my college education so I dropped it.
Fast forward to my first year of college. I needed to write a paper for a class and I was lazy, so I went to my parent’s house to see if any of my old high school papers were still saved on the computer. As I was combing through the files I saw something with my name on it. Obviously, I opened it. It was a letter from my mom to the lawyer who looked over my account, stating my parents had used some of the money to support the family and that they were going to pay that back in instalments. I can’t remember exactly when it was dated, but it was from before I had offered the money.
I was completely taken aback, having been told that they couldn’t and wouldn’t touch it. I decided to go to the bank and find out how much money was left. I also had the transactions printed to see how much I had spent vs how much my parents had spent.
I spent roughly $30k and my parents had spent nearly $50k, which meant that the money was practically gone. No deposits were or had ever been made. I called the lawyer on the letter and he was surprised and advised me to take whatever was left and close the account, so obviously he never received the letter. He never followed up with me. In hindsight I’m not so sure if there ever were any real legal reasons my parents couldn’t use the money, I think they were also owners of the account.
I confronted my mom about it. Why didn’t she just tell me? Was she planning to once I tried to go into my second year of college and realised I had no way to pay for it? Did she just forget? She honestly didn't say much that I can remember, but we came to some sort of agreement about them paying for my phone bill indefinitely and helping me pay for groceries and other things should I ask. So they put me on the family plan for my phone and took me shopping a handful of times. (In hindsight, I’m not sure why I wasn’t on the plan already. I was only 18 and was working a crappy fast food job trying to support myself in college and my siblings were all on the plan, two of whom are older than me and had jobs.) Anyway, after a while it got to be like pulling teeth trying to get financial support from them so eventually I just stopped asking.
I ended up distancing myself from my family for a good part of my 20s for a lot of reasons, only really seeing them for the holidays and maybe a couple times throughout the year. I guess this made my parents forget about the money entirely. I wanted little to do with them so asking for money just wasn’t worth it to me, particularly as it had proven difficult already so I forced myself to let it go even though I was a really broke and struggling college drop out and working as a server. I was also partying a lot to cope and numb myself from other traumas. Eventually I met someone who was from another country and long story short, moved overseas and so my phone bill was no longer paid for by my parents.
I’m now 31 and in therapy to deal with a lifetime of trauma and the money came up recently. It has brought up a lot of anger and I do not know what to do with it. My parents are and have been financially comfortable for some time now, getting a nice big house and new cars and all the rest. They also got inheritance recently and bought my sibling a $14k car. There’s also a lot of other threads in this story that fuel my anger. Without giving details, one of those threads is that they didn’t show up or support me and another sibling at a significant time of need, emotionally or financially.
There’s a lot of family dynamics missing from this story that I know, deep in my soul, are the reasons. It’s what I’m in therapy for. But I guess talking to a therapist has brought up so many emotions. I honestly had let the money go and was living my life. I haven’t allowed myself to care about money at all, it’s always been “life is short so don’t squirrel away when you can enjoy today.” But now I have no money to my name other than the little in my account which at 31, I am starting to realise is going to be dangerous for me as I age.
But I had originally offered the money anyway. I know that if they had accepted it, the outcome would have been the same. I would have never asked for them to pay it back so I still wouldn’t have it. I still wouldn’t have been able to pay for college or put it away or anything you could possibly do with $80,000.
So why am I so, so angry now? How do I well and truly let this go? Despite everything my family has put me through, I still want to have as good a relationship as I can with them, but how do you get over a betrayal of this magnitude? I find myself pulling away from them again like I did in my 20s. I know I need to continue exploring this with my therapist and eventually we will figure it out. But god damn. Thanks for reading.

When I was in eight grade during PE, I was walking with my friends when I felt something behind me. I was wearing a fairly thick sweater so I wasn’t sure what it was but I felt it enter me for a moment. A few minutes later, I saw a boy in front of push a glue stick up behind a girl. I realized that he must have done the same to me and we both reported it. I feel like it didn’t really affect me but I still can’t stop thinking about it and it’s been years. Does it really count, or am I just overreacting?

So, I definitely have RSD, and sometimes it's a real struggle with work. Any time I make a mistake, especially if it's a mistake that then gets brought to my attention by my bosses, I doom spiral in to self loathing and obsessing over thinking about it.
For context, I handle ebay sales for a local comics and collectibles store. A customer messaged us to let us know that his item arrived damaged. I didn't personally pack the order, but I told another employee that the way she packed it was fine after she had already packed it up and asked if she did it right. It really should have been shipped more securely.
It wasn't a big deal and no one made me feel like it was, or was harsh or anything. The customer was also very understanding.
But my brain is screaming about how much I suck and don't know what I'm doing, and how I should've known better and how I'm literally the worst at my job and everyone thinks so.
How do you deal with this?

I'm pretty sure I've not missed any services that match my requirements, but I thought I'd still check with the community to see if I am missing something or if there might be some better solutions I've not thought of yet or my storage / syncing needs?
After doing my yearly review of all the big options out there I'm still really frustrated that there isn't a single one that can do what I think are very simple, very basic requirements. I take that back - Tresorit would maybe meet them all, but woooah are they expensive. :( I currently use Sync.com and while I mostly love it, they lack one huge feature. Here's my setup and then requirements for anyone interested in going further.

• I work between one laptop and one desktop. My spouse also works on one laptop and one desktop.
• My laptop functions as a work desktop with two 2TB external drives. My proper desktop also has two 2TB external drives. Neither drive is full. One is used more actively for projects, one is used more for long-term storage and archive.
• My spouse's setup is simpler - no external drives needed.
• I currently use both Sync and Backblaze for both syncing files and backing up files in case of catastrophic loss.
• I have to install Sync on my C: drive on my laptop so I have my most critical files "with me" when I work remote. But my C: drive is not big enough to use the space I have with Sync, so it's wasted... Yes they have "Vault" as more of an archive, but I need my files accessible locally. Vault is annoying (to me).

I'd love a sync solution that is one-stop so I can get rid of Backblaze and have more functionality within a single service. My personal requirements:

1. Support sync'd folders across more than one physical drive. Let me USE the total space I'm paying for.
2. Support collaborative folder sharing (i.e. Teams for most services)
3. Offer non-insulting levels of storage. I'd love 4 - 6 TB / user
4. Provide a reliable offline mobile experience
5. Robust security / encryption

Seems like a pretty simple, easy list. But nope.

• Sync.com - again, limited to only one physical drive. They don't technically support installing on external drives; you can do it (I do on my desktop) but if things get disconnected it's... a pain. Terribly unreliable mobile experience.
  • If sync improved their architecture to have Sync'd folders across different physical drives they'd probably be the gold standard obvious choice. But they do not.
• Tresorit - I love, love Tresorit. These guys have built a proper application. But holy how they're expensive. To get the space and teams I'd need I have to go from $12 / month with Sync to $60 / month!! Yeah go ************** on that one, Tresorit. Ain't happening.
• pCloud - I tried them out a year ago and just no. So gimmicky, terribly annoying UI. Not for me.
• Filen.io - a newer player. I just tried them out as they supposedly support multiple physical drives, but another big nope. Probably the most disjointed and confusing UI+Workflow I've seen in an application in years. Maybe I'll check them out again in a couple years but they're not ready yet.
• Mega - looks interesting, but minimum team members are 3. I need 2. I'm not paying a $200 / year luxury tax for myself and my spouse.
• ProtonDrive - still in an odd beta state. I'm curious how their desktop client will function. But seeing what they've done with their "Family Plan" pricing and feature-gating my hopes aren't high.

Then there are the encryption-wrapping solutions for something like Dropbox, but again Dropbox is tied to one folder on one physical drive. Boo.
Man, how can it be that in 2023 there are really hardly any players in this space who can simply offer whatever storage you want + multiple physical drives? I guess another year of crossing fingers that Sync.com enhances how they work or Tresorit suddenly has a major price drop. Unless I'm missing something....

https://turtletimeline.com/climate-resilient-gardens-future-proof-your-landscape/

The importance of climate-resilient landscapes

By Victoria Cummins / Turtle Timeline
In today’s world, it’s hard to ignore the undeniable reality of climate change. The impacts of rising temperatures, more frequent extreme weather events, ocean acidification, and changes in species behavior are just a few ecological changes that have become very apparent. We now find ourselves in a time where adaptation is not just a choice but a necessity, especially as younger generations come of age.
That’s why creating a climate-resilient garden or landscape is not only a deep and profound way to take care of the earth, but a necessity for our survival as a species.
A climate-resilient landscape offers us a proactive and practical way to navigate the uncertainties of our changing climate, while also reconnecting in ways that may have been lost from the generations before us.
By prioritizing ecological balance, and conserving resources, climate-resilient landscapes provide sustainable solutions that benefit humans and the intricate web of life on Earth. In this article, we will explore and delve into the three key elements that define resilient landscapes, in hopes that we can translate these into our home gardens and beyond.

Storing water in the landscape: efficient water management techniques

Water is life, and without it, we wouldn’t exist. Through large-scale industrialization and the misuse of water, the hydrological cycle has been broken in many places across the world. Without concerted efforts to repair and restore the hydrological cycle, the scarcity of water will persist and worsen.
In the garden, we are presented with the opportunity to work with water rather than depleting it from a local fresh source. By employing efficient water management techniques, we can transform our gardens into regenerative and abundant havens that not only conserve water but also begin to restore the greater watershed.
Rainwater harvesting stands as a cornerstone of water sustainability, allowing us to capture the gift of rainfall and channel it where it’s needed most. A common phrase used in permaculture and greater water harvesting communities is: “Slow it, Spread, it, Sink it.”
Embracing the practices of systems such as permaculture, we can design our landscapes to include techniques such as swales and terraces, strategically directing and retaining water to nourish our plants and replenish the groundwater reserves.
Store water in containers such as rain cisterns and apply materials that make use of local waste streams and store water in the soil like wood chips. Select drought-tolerant plant species that reduce evaporation and minimize and even eliminate the need for additional irrigation.
Work with the rain instead of allowing it to run directly into roadways and farm fields. Collectively through these mindful approaches, we become stewards of water, recognizing its life-giving ability and ensuring its responsible use in the garden – and beyond!

Soil health: building a strong foundation

Today you might hear someone call soil “dirt”, but the truth is, our soil is so much more than that. All life on Earth can be traced back to the minerals found in our soil. From the tiniest microorganisms to the grandest trees and biggest creatures, the essential elements and nutrients provided by soil minerals are the building blocks that sustain and support life. It’s estimated that a single teaspoon of healthy soil can contain billions of microorganisms!
On top of this, the healthiest and most successionally advanced ecosystems on our planet are characterized by the presence of thriving and rich soil. In the garden, we can mimic these same environments by enriching our soil with practices such as:

• Layering organic matter such as leaves, food scraps, manure, wood ash, grass clippings, cardboard, straw, and plant matter from the garden
• Composting food scraps and other commonly wasted natural materials
• Minimizing soil disturbance with methods like No-Dig Gardening
• Designing and choosing plants that accumulate soil nutrients in their leaves such as comfrey, borage, and apple
• Design and choosing plants that fix nitrogen into the soil such as alder, Siberian pea shrub, or clover

By feeding your soil you are in turn feeding your plants, which is a much different concept than the modern idea of adding fertilizer sourced from across the world solely to “feed” your plants. What we really need to do is feed our soil, which will establish a robust foundation that heals through water infiltration, carbon sequestration, and overall ecosystem health.

Choosing plants that allow for life to thrive

On our journey to future-proof our gardens for the challenges of climate change, the selection of plants takes on a huge role in cultivating an environment that fosters resilience and enables life to thrive.
You have probably seen a traditional garden with a lawn that contains only ornamental flowers and requires many inputs such as fertilizer, pesticides, and water in order to sustain itself. Outside of some pollination and aesthetic beauty, this ecosystem takes much more from the earth (and from us!) than it gives back, depleting instead of enriching the landscape.
With a more mindful approach, we can choose plants with characteristics that are adaptable to changing climatic conditions, capable of withstanding droughts, and resilient to extreme weather events. In your garden, choose plants with some of the following in mind:

Edible plants

Our modern food system is broken. By integrating edible plants into our gardens, it not only offers the joy of homegrown food but also enhances our self-sufficiency and food security.
Cultivating a diverse array of perennial edible plants, from fruits and vegetables to herbs and medicinal plants, we not only nourish ourselves but break the unhealthy patterns of supporting large-scale, mono-cropped, and industrialized agriculture. We rely on ourselves and in turn work with our neighbors and communities to trade what’s available.

Native plants

Choosing native plants for our gardens allows us to embrace the inherent wisdom of our local ecosystem. Native plants have coevolved with the regional climate, soil conditions, and wildlife, making them well-adapted to the local environment and known to thrive. They often serve multiple functional roles as well such as fertilizing the soil, providing food, and pollination services.
Incorporating native plants, we create habitats that support local biodiversity, provide food and shelter for native wildlife, and restore the ecological balance that is crucial for the long-term health of our landscapes.

Drought-tolerant plants

Amidst the increasing water scarcity challenges posed by climate change, selecting drought-tolerant plants is a wise choice for our gardens as it means we have to water less. These plants have evolved mechanisms to thrive with minimal water inputs, reducing and eliminating the need for irrigation and conserving precious water resources.

Providing a refuge for wildlife

Our gardens can serve as sanctuaries, offering a refuge for wildlife in the midst of urbanization and habitat loss. Many species on the brink of extinction have been observed to migrate toward more rich ecosystems that better suit their needs.
Intentionally including plants that provide food, shelter, and nesting sites for birds, butterflies, bees, and other beneficial creatures, we create havens of biodiversity. The bonus of that is experiencing the joy that these creatures bring while in our presence.

Plants with multiple uses

Plants with multiple uses are an invaluable addition to our climate-resilient gardens. By selecting plants that offer various benefits beyond their aesthetic appeal, we maximize the productivity and functionality of our landscapes. These plants may provide edible fruits, leaves, or roots for our sustenance, medicinal properties for healing, fibers for crafting, or even nitrogen fixation to enrich the soil.
Embracing the concept of multi-purpose plants allows us to optimize space and resources, ensuring that every plant contributes to the overall resilience and sustainability of our garden ecosystem.

Conclusion: creating your climate-resilient garden

The journey of creating a climate-resilient garden transcends mere gardening—it becomes an act of profound stewardship and care for ourselves, the land, and the generations yet to come.
Keeping the principles of climate adaptation, soil health, native and drought-tolerant plants, and mindful plant choices at the forefront of our garden design, we embark on a transformative path. We become guardians of the Earth’s vitality, cultivating spaces that nurture not only our present selves but also the future versions of who we will become, as well as the legacy we leave for the next generations.
The rewards of these conscious gardening practices extend far beyond the beauty and bounty we witness in our gardens—they are imprinted on the very fabric of our existence, intertwining with the threads of our interconnectedness and echoing through time.
For more on resources and inspiration projects that are currently gardening with these concepts in mind, see below:

• 5 Most Epic Earth Healing Projects
• India’s Water Revolution Series: The Biggest Permaculture Project on Earth
• No-Dig Gardening Explained in 5 Minutes
• The Ultimate Guide to No-Dig Gardening
• 5 Tips For Building Healthy Soil

The art of gardening in the Pacific Northwest: how to create a thriving garden

I met my TF when I picked up a second job. We worked for a while at the same location, but after we started dating she ended up switching to a different location for a couple different reasons.
I don’t work that job anymore, I quit a few weeks ago. But I still have access to the app with the schedules and shift exchange. So, I know for example that she has been off the the last 3 days including today. That was hard enough, wondering what she was up to with all that time off. And then today I got a notification that someone was trying to get their shift covered tomorrow, checked and sure enough, she posted her shift meaning she won’t be going in tomorrow either. We have been in no contact for 2 weeks now, and when I saw it my heart just absolutely started racing and I was shaking, felt like I might throw up, just over seeing her name posting to get a shift covered. My brain goes wild with it, you know, it’s like you had the last 3 days off, and now you aren’t going in tomorrow. Is she sick? Did she do something so wild the last 3 days she’s still recovering? Does she have plans? What are they? Who are they with? My mind just went into absolute overdrive mode, and I have zero ability to know why she isn’t going in tomorrow.
Having no knowledge of her life anymore, what’s going on, how she is, it’s just torture. It’s almost too much to take. We made an agreement I wouldn’t reach out, but it’s just all I want to do, to just know what’s going on, what she’s doing, thinking, feeling. And I can’t.
This is the absolute worst.

Make dua for Allah swt to grant us muslims strength.
Ramadan was a time when the shayateen were chained up and the shayateen have infiltrated the west to create a month full of sin in june. Be ready, my friends, were about to experience a lot of fitnah through products, companies and many other things around us. Dont feel ashamed to boycott what you see changed to support haram.
We have to stay strong and hold firm the rope of Allah swt, for if we crawl towards Allah, He will walk towards us, and if we walk towards Him, He will run towards us.
Stay strong my beloved brothers and sisters, we live in a time with fitnah at every glance. Make dua, and remember the sunnahs to help you throughout the day.
Pray 2 rakah before going out of your home and 2 when you come back home
Duas when leaving home
Bismillaahi, tawakkaltu 'alallaahi, wa laa hawla wa laa quwwata ' illaa billaah. In the name of Allah, I place my trust in Allah, and there is no might nor power except with Allah
Allaahumma ‘innee ‘a’oothu bika ‘an ‘adhilla, ‘aw ‘udhalla, ‘aw ‘azilla, ‘aw ‘uzalla, ‘aw ‘adhlima, ‘aw ‘udhlama, ‘aw ‘ajhala ‘aw yujhala ‘alayya.
O Allah, I take refuge with You lest I should stray or be led astray, or slip or be tripped, or oppress or be oppressed, or behave foolishly or be treated foolishly. Slip: i.e. to commit a sin unintentionally.
May Allah swt protect us all.

I have 115 PSLF payments, the end is so near I can hardly stand it. I owe 175k which is waaaaay more than I took out.
I have an employer that was non profit but comes up as undetermined so Mohela needs to “investigate.”
This is all fine and dandy but I submitted the form the end of November and it’s still processing. I have 9 payments just hanging out waiting to be counted and waiting to end my student loan nightmare.
I have sent multiple emails and am told “we don’t have a timeframe”, blah blah effing blah. How about “investigate” instead of sending me emails about timeframes?
In the meantime I continue to work non profit for a confirmed organization and Mohela updates my count every month literally like clockwork within 48 hours.
I have 9 potential payments hanging out there and I need 5 more. Did I mention that? They did tell me there are a lot of “undetermined” employers and that what is taking so long. Anyone have this happen and if so how long did it take?
My luck is I will have to start making payments again even though I have over well over the needed 120 payments.
Maddening. Just maddening.

So the guy I'm dating he watches Andrew Tate and videos where men bring women to talk and stuff. I told him I think those videos are really stupid, and it pisses me off. I get upset for him liking this stuff and thinking Andrew Tate is good. Everytime I try to tell him my view point he's always like "see you're already getting mas and stuff," and he kinda laughs at me to. I don't view Andrew Tate as a real man, or someone who people should look up to. But I'm not exactly sure how to argue my point across becuase I don't watch any of Andrew Tates videos. All I see are insecure men getting mad for no reason and that can't handle other people's choice and opinions. I really want to get my point across to him but I don't have any evidence of anything. What can I do and tell my boyfriend and my argument stronger that Andrew Tate and the videos he watches are not good? It honestly makes my heart sink a little that he likes Andrew Tate, and agrees with what he says.

Sign up for BSRA's annual FREE day of rowing. Saturday, June 10th from 9:30-11:30am. 405 Ohio Street Buffalo, NY 14204 ​ All ages welcome to attend however participants need to be a minimum of 11 years old to go on the water.
During this 2 hour session, participants will learn about rowing on Concept2 Indoor Rowers, take a tour of the BSRA Boathouse and eventually get on the water.
Participants should wear tighter fitting and weather appropriate workout clothing (layers are always a good idea!). Please wear sneakers and bring a water bottle.
Participants do not need to know how to swim, but comfort and confidence around water is strongly encouraged. We do have safety belts if participants would feel more comfortable wearing one.
Participants will receive a 10% discount code at the the end to go toward Youth Learn to Row or Adult Learn to Row.
Buffalo Scholastic Rowing association has programs for ages 11 - 99 and is located at 405 Ohio Street, Buffalo, NY
Register now: https://www.rowbuffalo.com/event-details/try-it-free-day-at-bsra

Ego inflation.
The stories our forefathers and foremothers tell, are True. Those legends and myths, the spiritual powers and psychic warfare, the holocausts and hells with the paradises and heavens. It is all Authentic. I want you to notice I say “are True”, not “were true”. I also want you to notice that, I use the word “Authentic”, and not the word “real”.
So what happens when you recognize that fact? You become a representative of them, a Custodian, a Guardian of Ancient Secrets. You are initiated into those worlds, into the adventure. You are imbued and endowed with the necessary manna, and are provided with the tools to embark on the greatest journey of your Life. Indeed, the journey of Life Itself is about This: there is no better game in town.
Ok. So you have your wand or spell book, your sword or weapons, and with the enthusiasm of a child, you venture in. But, alas, there´s no one that recognizes your greatness, your stature, your powers: everyone is just kinda trucking along with their problems and growl at you for your foolishness. You, my friend, were duped.
I see this all the time. People that truly have great potential for spiritual work, and yet are riding, tripping, consuming an ego so huge, that they cannot even entertain the possibility that they are hallucinating. This whole universe is a hallucination after all, isn’t it? Just like a dog chewing a bone, damaging its own mouth, enjoying their own blood. It is a macabre and yet funny spectacle.
Now imagine this: there are 2 devotees, one with false modesty, and the other, with true humility. The modest one stepped up, and demonstrated how he kneeled before God: “You kneel thusly”, he said with certain pride and arrogance. The humble one smiled, said: “You are a great devotee”. The modest one, sure of himself, said: “Will you show me how you kneel?” “I rather not” “Please” “Ok, but I will not stop unless you stop me, deal?” “Deal”. Then the humble one did this: he jumped into the air and fell with his knees hitting the rock hard ground. He did this several times until blood started to come out of his knees. But he would not stop. Jumped up, fell to the ground damaging his knees. The blood started to pour, more and more. Finally the modest one fell to his knees, tears in his eyes, stopped the humble one: “Please, brother, make it stop! You will destroy the whole world if you continue like this!” The humble one, crying also, said: “The world needs no destruction. Only your ego, my dearest”.
It is truly difficult, in life, to recognize a saint or a sage. Almost as if there is a force, a veil in our eyes and Heart that blocks, that prevents us from seeing their greatness. And we have an absolute guarantee in life, which is death. Now, my opinion means nothing, but I have found a second guarantee: if you follow This Path, you will bleed.

Hi there,
I am 10w 3d and tested positive for COVID this morning. So far I've had a fever kept to 99 - 100 with Tylenol, a cough, and congestion. I am fully vaxxed + 2 boosters (as many as recommended in the US) but never had symptomatic COVID before (I had an asymptomatic case before vaccines were available in December 2020, but I strongly suspect it was a false positive).
My OB recommended Paxlovid and my primary care, who needs to write the script for it, recommended against it. My PCP got quite combative with me and insisted it's not safe or tested in pregnancy. I am tempted to send them this study: https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/news/newsroom/news-releases/study-shows-paxlovid-can-safely-be-used-to-reduce-risk-of-severe-covid-in-people-who-are-pregnant#:~:text=Findings%20from%20a%20Johns%20Hopkins,the%20possibility%20of%20severe%20disease.
Any stories or other studies? I'm feeling pretty sick and also angry at how I was disregarded by my PCP.